Many readers criticized my last post with some version of this:
In your last post you said…
“There are no bad kids.”
Yes there are.
I understand. Maybe you were victim of one of their crimes. Maybe they bullied you in school. Maybe you’ve given some kid a dozen ‘second chances’ and they still don’t ‘get it.’
I hope you didn’t misunderstand, I do believe there should be consequences for criminal actions, especially violent crimes.
What I meant when I wrote, ‘There are no bad kids’ is that they are not inherently flawed. If you label them ‘bad’, you are giving them a cop-out, an excuse to act like a victim. You are saying, ‘You can’t help but behave poorly.’ If the kid believes he is bad then he will believe he has no choice. But it’s a lie. He does have a choice, and the lie traps him in a cycle of destruction.
Your actions are a choice. You are not preprogrammed. You are not a robot. You have free will. You can choose to take constructive action or destructive action. It is your decision. Even if you have chosen to harm someone in the past, it does not make you ‘bad’ right now. You are not required to follow an old pattern. You can choose to make your next action constructive. From there you can commit to making every action constructive. Your past decisions created your present reality but you are only as ‘good’ or ‘bad’ as your next decision.
Destructive actions will make your life worse.
Constructive actions will make your life better.
Anybody can change. There are no people incapable of change.
I don’t care if you are in a prison cell or the CEO suite. You have the power of this present moment. No matter what decisions you made 10 minutes ago, 10 months ago, or 10 years ago, you still have the power to do something different right now. It is your choice. This moment is yours. Create something better with it.
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