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The simple concept I am about to share with you has taken me most of my adult life to realize and is one of the key ingredients in living a balanced fulfilling life.

Dereck at I Will Not Die wrote a piece (Playgrounds in the Night) that will move you. When you read it, it will leave you with a sense of urgency to live now. It will make you question every decision you make, make you fight your distractions, and push you to live right now.

Dereck is right and I encourage you to live right now, while you still have the time.

But it is only half-the story. Life is never clean. It’s messy and mysterious.

Like a lot of you, I struggle living in the now. I think I know why. Let me explain with a story.

There was a boy I once knew that never wanted the day to end. He lived in the moment and for the moment. Eating was a nuisance, going potty a waste of time, getting dressed a distraction. He had important things to do. He had dragons to slay, legions to lead into battle, fortresses to build, treasure to find, and damsels to save.

And when he wasn’t in his imagination, he had worms to eat, bikes to jump, ropes to swing from, rocks to throw, firecrackers to light, lawn darts to toss, books to read, games to play, and movies to watch.

He hated plans and loved spontaneity. He did everything he could now because tomorrow never came, it was always now.

He avoided schedules and plans because they felt like prisons.

As he grew older, he went to parties, he smoked dope, he played music, chased girls, and wrote poetry. It was all enormous fun. But he never made plans for his future. He lived for the moment, no worries, life to it’s fullest.

He didn’t expect to live past 18, but it came and it went. Then he didn’t expect to live past 21. But it too came and it went.

As time went on, he had fewer and fewer friends. Some went to prison, others to treatment, some got married, others to school, some even died. He kept living for the moment, but soon he found himself alone. Everyone had either made plans and moved on or disappeared.

At 30 years old, he had no money, no house, no friends, no marriage, no kids, no education, no job, no business. He spent 30 years living in the now and now the present wasn’t so fun. His health was failing and so was his sanity.

That’s when he realized his mistake…

It is important to answer this question:

How would I live if I was sure I was going to die tomorrow?

But it is equally important to ask yourself this one:

How would I live if I was sure I’d live a 100 more years?

There is a difference between living in the present and living like there is no tomorrow. Failing to think about your future is irresponsible to yourself and your loved ones. If you want something tomorrow, sometimes, you have to do something you don’t want to do today. You can live in the present moment, while choosing to use your present moment to make plans for your future. In reality there are no other moments than this one, right here, right now. But that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t use it to plan your future and learn from your past.

You can do your own thing, but remember, you will reap the consequences of your choices. There is no avoiding them.

While it is possible I may die today, I am planning to live past 100. Sometimes I tell my kids ‘no’ when they ask to go to the park. If I knew I was going to die tomorrow we’d go to the park. But today I choose to work on my career, my business, my writing, my health, my finances, as well as my marriage and my children. No one thing can have my focused attention all the time. Sometimes I have to drop work and help a family member, sometimes I say no to my family because there is work to be done. My plans are longer than 1 day or 1 week.

If you are overly focused on the long-term you’ll miss the present and you’ll die waiting to arrive.

However, if you are overly focused on the present without thought for your future, and you happen to live another 60 years, you may not like where you end up. You need to watch where you are going or you might end up lost, in the ditch, or crushed in a head on collision.

Yes, if I knew I was going to die next week, I’d live the next 7 days very differently. But if I chose to live that way all the time, life would get strange. Life wouldn’t be as fun without long-term goals and successes.

The exact date and time of your demise is a mystery, and that makes life far more interesting. It forces you to take calculated risks with your most precious commodity – time.

I came to understand this when I realized…
When I choose to do something right now, I am forgoing every other possibility. To read this post, you gave up everything else you could have been doing with that time. I hope I left you with something you can use.

There is no right or wrong answer, there is only what is right for you. Don’t let anyone choose for you, but remember to choose intelligently.