Ego and Breaking All the Rules

The War on Ego – By Steve Pavlina. Speaking of egos, before I write anything about this post, I want to say that I haven’t linked to Steve Pavlina in over year. It isn’t because I don’t like his stuff. I love his stuff. I noticed that he rarely links to any of the bloggers in his niche so I decided not to link to him. Maybe he’ll read this. Anyway, his post about ego is right on. Your ego is an essential part of your personality. Don’t attempt to abandon your ego or you’ll drive yourself mad. Just refrain from being an egomaniac.

Personal Development as a result of Ignoring the Rules – Aaron Potts nails the truth with this post. I try to tell this to people every day of my life. I want to grab them and shake them and say, quit following like a lemming, dammit! I’ve done some really stupid things in life… One of those things was ignoring the rules. I won’t even tell you the jams I’ve been in breaking the rules. But I don’t regret one minute of it, because it made who I am today. And that is why I have tolerance for kids who make mistakes and I believe society has gone way overboard with zero-tolerance laws. I’ve also done some really smart things in my life… one of those things was ignoring all the rules. It teaches you about calculated risk. It teaches you that there are new ways… even better ways of doing things.

5 Reasons to Go Through Life Lazy, Drunken, and Stupid – The Best April Fools post of 2008. But do you know why it is funny? There’s an element of truth in it, isn’t there? I know people who have chosen this path in life, and they claim to like it. When I smoked cigarettes I used to say, “If I quit now, I could get hit by a bus tomorrow and die a miserable death all while going through nicotine withdrawal.” And you know what? There was some truth to it. But you have to ask yourself, “Are you likely to die tomorrow?” You could justify anything with that logic.

16 Things I Wish They Had Taught Me in School By Henrik at The Positivity Blog. This one of the best “What they should teach in school” posts written. Henrik put a lot of thought and effort into this. I’d like to add one more thing I wish they taught in school… To Delegate. But unfortunately, if you delegate your schoolwork it’s called cheating. In real life it is called good management.

The Incredible Power of Contentment – Leo Babuata’s Zen Habits is arguably the best positive thinking/self-improvement blog on the net. This post showcases his talent and insight. I chuckled as I read the part Leo edited about happiness being a personal choice. There are always people telling us about other people who find it impossible to be happy or content. Okay, Okay, enough, we aren’t talking about them, we are talking about you. So quit making excuses and choose to be happy already!

Steven Aitchison wrote a fantastic series about making true friends. This is great advice, because many of us discover as we grow older that the people we thought were our friends are not true friends at all and our relationships evaporate because there was nothing of substance. Steven gives us an intelligent four part series on building quality friendships. Read the series here:

20 Tips to Survive When You’ve Overloaded Your Schedule – By Scott Young. I love Scott’s stuff and this one is golden advice when you are over committed. However, like I posted in the comments, in my experience it is best not to go overboard scheduling your life. I know this is heresy in some personal development circles, but time management is a crock. GTD is much better. Better yet… delegate, like Tim Ferriss, outsource the grind and live your passion.. IMHO in order to enjoy your life and be creative, you need unstructured free time to be spontaneous.

Some say writers should avoid sarcasm… One commenter recently told Marc Andressen that he was becoming too sarcastic and should read Ben Franklin and learn to be more persuasive. So Marc took his advice and read a bit of Mr. Franklin and his response was classic. There is a lot to learn from Marc’s post. Remember folks… the rules were made to be broken!

A Simple Way to Improve Your Life Everyday – Donald Latumahia writes an insightful post about the four facets of prosperity, material, spiritual, physical, and social. We need balance and endless improvement in all four areas to be truly prosperous. I use a similar method as his already, but I plan to add a few facets of his plan to mine.

6 thoughts on “Ego and Breaking All the Rules”

  1. Steve, I never used to like these kind of posts, I thought they were lazy, but not for the first time, I was wrong! Now I love them because they are the soul of blogging in terms of sharing great resources and I have found some brilliant sites that I’d nevr have found otherwise. For that I’m grateful. Imagine what I’d have said if you’d actualy have included one of my posts!

  2. Steve,

    Thanks for the link love, and for helping to keep the faith when it comes to the human responsibility for each of us to do our own thing! I often think of you when I write or give thoughts to those types of concepts, so – in case you were wondering – that how I see your “brand,” and that is a good thing!

    As far as Steve Pavlina, I agree. He writes awesome content, but he is definitely not a community builder outside of his own walls.

  3. Thanks for the mention, Steve. I’m glad you liked my little April Fool’s joke. I agree, there is some truth there. Pavlina has hurt himself by not linking out more IMO, but I still greatly respect and appreciate his content. I guess you just have to do have to do what feels right. Glad to see you back in the blogging saddle.

  4. Funny how they say, “I could get hit by a bus tomorrow” but never “I could live another 40 years and really, really be glad I quit when I was 40.” The odds are even better.

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